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Felt like rereading after Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother since both pieces cover complicated relationships, but My Family s Slave is muchfamiliar.When this article first came out to polarizing opinions, I like many other Filipinos didn t condemn Alex Tizon It was an awful situation that many of us can understand or even relate to, because many of us have had kasambahay of our own Vicente Rafael explains it much better.Tizon wrote beautifully He knew what anecdotes to include that wou Felt like rereading after Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother since both pieces cover complicated relationships, but My Family s Slave is muchfamiliar.When this article first came out to polarizing opinions, I like many other Filipinos didn t condemn Alex Tizon It was an awful situation that many of us can understand or even relate to, because many of us have had kasambahay of our own Vicente Rafael explains it much better.Tizon wrote beautifully He knew what anecdotes to include that would hit close to home Lola surrounded by laundry she must fold, falling asleep wherever available reminded me of my own experiences and he described them eloquently and effectively The fight that erupted when Lola s teeth kept falling out was especially moving.Like Tizon, I wonder what Lola could have become had she been given a proper education and a chance to live free of poverty Perhaps her life would have been better, perhaps it wouldn t have We ll never know I can only be glad that her later years were happier having had closure when she finally visited the Philippines after decades, and made her own home in her garden, word puzzles, and family that genuinely cherished her I like the story, but it feels really shallow The author is coming across as a saviour giving a pension to a poor old woman, but it just feels like he could and should have donefor her earlier in her life Loved the quote I could tell by what she served whether she was merely feeding us or saying she loved us She d had none of the self serving ambition that drives most of us, and her willingness to give up everything for the people around her won her our love and utter loyalty.What the fuck She was not a free person She was literally robbed of any possibility to have ambition or anything else for that matter She didn t have a choice but to serve So her giving up everything for the people around her was not willingness , it was quite literally survival.The article starts out well a little self f She d had none of the self serving ambition that drives most of us, and her willingness to give up everything for the people around her won her our love and utter loyalty.What the fuck She was not a free person She was literally robbed of any possibility to have ambition or anything else for that matter She didn t have a choice but to serve So her giving up everything for the people around her was not willingness , it was quite literally survival.The article starts out well a little self flagelatingly but towards the end it s consumed by apologism which sounds grating and sad I imagine it s hard to tell the story of a person your family owned, but perhaps don t devote as much time to assurances you treated her well in the end and even started paying her including stating the amount.Lola herself reminded me a lot of my grandmother who also grew up poor in a small village and learned to never throw anything away, could not stay idle and was forever reminding us to put on a sweater I cant really remember how or when I came across this story The same minute I remembered this being on my shelf I started it.It s pretty sad to think that a sweet woman like this lived most of her life this way Far away from her home and her family Having to do everything and look after everyone, as well as having to endure being yelled and unappreciated She looked after the author and his siblings and was like a mother to them Despite everything she went through she still loved them all T I cant really remember how or when I came across this story The same minute I remembered this being on my shelf I started it.It s pretty sad to think that a sweet woman like this lived most of her life this way Far away from her home and her family Having to do everything and look after everyone, as well as having to endure being yelled and unappreciated She looked after the author and his siblings and was like a mother to them Despite everything she went through she still loved them all The story was brief but touching and I admit I shed a few tears by the end of it.You can read this story here Blog Instagram This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers To view it, click here This memoir was, interesting At first glance, I thought it would be a story like any other slavery stories I realized that I was too quick to judge, and after reading that this took place in the 1900s, it caught my attention The place takes place in the Philippines, where instead of Slave they called them Utusans or katulongs helpers or kasambahays domestics , as long as there are people even poorer The pool is deep It s just a level lower than the one before It s been well ove This memoir was, interesting At first glance, I thought it would be a story like any other slavery stories I realized that I was too quick to judge, and after reading that this took place in the 1900s, it caught my attention The place takes place in the Philippines, where instead of Slave they called them Utusans or katulongs helpers or kasambahays domestics , as long as there are people even poorer The pool is deep It s just a level lower than the one before It s been well over a year since Alex Tizon published this article, it went viral on social media and he has since received backlash and criticism over his tone of these events and actions This is a non fiction story about a family, Alex s family, owning a slave This isn t the worst but it isn t the best read It s okay, but eye catching when you understand and know the culture behind this He didn t do anything to stop his family s wrongful action, and he knew very well what was going on He only did something to help her out, after his parents were out of the picture It was still full of hypocrisy as he simultaneously hid her existence from his friends This memoir suggests that his family, especially his parents, deprived Lola of her humanity When I once referred to Lola as a distant aunt, Billy reminded me that when we d first met I d said she was my grandmother Tizon, My family s slave We spent our first decade in the country trying to fit in Having a slave did not fit Having a slave gave me grave doubts about what kind of people we were, what kind of place we came from Tizon, My family s slave In this paragraph, Alex starts to characterize the kind of people him and his family were when living in America Having a slave didn t fit into the society of the westerners and never will Slavery here was different from slavery in the Philippines before the Spanish invaded The author starts to question what this meant from his family and those they became friends with What is even justified that they live in America Having doubts on his own morals Alex questioned the kind of person he was because of this realization that they have a slave He couldn t say that he was a good person but he couldn t say that he was a bad one either ALthough he never hit or yelled at Lola, she was still his family s slave and that was written on concrete When reading this, I felt heartbroken for Lola for all those years she had endured and also for her family Like I claimed before, this article is something I have conflicting feelings about I don t like that it had to do with slavery in the Americas but I get how your cultural upbringing influences people and their choices Filipino culture generally includes a very strong sense of duty to family It s something that children often feel intensely, which prevents them from speaking out against their parents even when they become adults Federis, Five things to consider if you are reading My Family s Slave Which is understandable in Tizon s case, he never liked having Lola as a slave but he didn t want his family to fall apart in an instant So, he remained silent about it It wasn t after his mother died and his father was no longer in the picture that he set Lola free Late, but he still did it I understand when people debate saying that he should ve done the right thing but when you re raised in a place where the family is first, it s not all that simple After Lola died, Tizon went to her home country to give her ashes to her family members Seeing them all weep and cry, made him realize that people did love Lola For he had thought before that no one did, and bringing the ashes was probably wrong I had enough interior dialogue going on I was no better than my parents I could have doneto free Lola To make her life better Why didn t I I could have turned in my parents, I suppose It would have blown up my family in an instant Instead, my siblings and I kept everything to ourselves, and rather than blowing up in an instant, my family broke apart slowly Tizon, My family s slave The author s way of formatting and giving us context near the beginning of the article before starting with the complete story head on was smart and obviously needed If it wasn t for the first few paragraphs paragraph, I would have been with the mindset of what America s experience with slavery was, and wouldn t even bother looking up how it was in the Philippines Giving us a brief history of what happened during the time Lola was young and how slavery over there was different is some ways then what we learned here When the Spanish arrived, in the 1500s, they enslaved islanders and later brought African and Indian slaves The Spanish Crown eventually began phasing out slavery at home and in its colonies, but parts of the Philippines were so far flung that authorities couldn t keep a close eye Tizon, My family s slave I appreciate that he included these, helps the audience follow what he s saying Where it all began At the end of the day, both Alex and Lola were family and they loved each other Alex saw Lola as a mother figure and Lola saw his siblings and him as her family Bahala na was her guiding principle Come what may What came her way was another kind of family In that family, she had eight children Mom, my four siblings and me, and now my two daughters The eight of us, she said, made her life worth living Although this memoir was both emotional and questionable due to the author s actions during these times, I can t say that I didn t enjoy reading this It was tough to get through, but I m glad I decided to read it I didn t want to reveal too much in this since i was to give a chance for others to read this Tizon, My family s slave This quote from Lola was emotional to me, she s a strong woman for being subjected under such cruelty and abuse This, and i will repeat again, was neither a good read or a bad one It s a slice of life, a tough one that is It s haunting and beautifully written I didn t enjoy reading this but i wanted to keep going so at the end it s a mixture and it s a different experience for everyone Sources Five Things To Consider If You Are Reading my Family s Slave Even as I am writing this, tears are continuously streaming down my cheeks This is not a beautiful story, it is just well written No words can express how much agony Lola has gone through 12 years of solace can t bring her whole life back I weep for her, but all the same I weep for the family They didn t deserve her May you rest in everlasting peace, Lola. The heartrending story of Eudocia Tomas Pulido, or as simply addressed by the author, Lola, started with ashes The journey of Alex Tizon, the author, was about taking her ashes from the urban part of Seattle to a small village in the Philippines, Mayantoc The narrative began with a description of Lola her height, the color of her hair as well as her skin While Alex was on his way to return Lola s ashes to her family in Tarlac, he told the life and role of Lola to his family.Lola was taken by The heartrending story of Eudocia Tomas Pulido, or as simply addressed by the author, Lola, started with ashes The journey of Alex Tizon, the author, was about taking her ashes from the urban part of Seattle to a small village in the Philippines, Mayantoc The narrative began with a description of Lola her height, the color of her hair as well as her skin While Alex was on his way to return Lola s ashes to her family in Tarlac, he told the life and role of Lola to his family.Lola was taken by Lieutenant Tom, Alex s grandfather, to give her to his daughter which was Alex s mother Lieutenant Tom promised Lola of things in return such as food and shelter, in exchange of her labor But Lola did the household duties and work for the family everyday not being paid, and what was worse was the fact that Lola was being maltreated She suffered from physical and emotional abuse from Alex s parents but said nothing about it They took Lola s ambition and chance to live her life away.It was when Alex was 11 years old, alongside with his brother, Arthur, when they became aware of Lola s role to their family A slave Alex then grew to hate how his parents treated Lola and thought that the actions were immoral That being said, Alex started to speak about his feelings for Lola and defended her, subtlety, every once in a while It started when he was 13.Overall, despite being hard to read because of the cruel and inhuman elements, I enjoyed reading this article memoir Apart from the story itself, the narrative was greatly done Alex Tizon has a way with words that just hits you right in the gutsWhy do you stay we asked Who will cook she said, which I took to mean, Who would do everything The story gives you this dual perspective of when Alex was in the Philippines to deliver Lola s ashes while also telling the story of how Lola s life was back in SeattleTwo hours , he said I checked the plastic box in the tote bag by my side still there and looked up to see open road The MacArthur Highway I glanced at the time Hey, you said two hours two hours ago, I said Doods just hummed.His not knowing anything about the purpose of my journey was a relief The narration was seamlessly written, as if Alex himself was telling you the story in person, by means of his mouthI thought driving could change her life She could go places And if things ever got unbearable with Mom, she could drive away forever The plot structure was wonderful It gave you a direction that was straight, without so much of a filler events This was one of those short stories with huge impact to the readers for it makes you reflect on your behavior and how you treat people around you, how you act in situations of in needI let her words sink in Then I came back at her, saying she would know all about being a phony, her whole life was a masquerade, and if she stopped feeling sorry for herself for one minute she d see that Lola could barely eat because her goddamn teeth were rotting out of her goddamn head, and couldn t she think of her just this once as a real person instead of a slave kept alive to serve her BEAUTIFUL NARRATIVE from a Pulitzer Prize winning journalist The hurt, the pain, the struggle, the confusion and frustration of growing up with his family s secret Tizon makes you Feel all these emotions HIS emotions as you judge, reflect, debate with yourself, cringe, try to understand, but not really Then there s the LOVE A complicated love I don t remember the last time I read something that made me feel so conflicted love, family, responsibility, fear of deportation so must ke BEAUTIFUL NARRATIVE from a Pulitzer Prize winning journalist The hurt, the pain, the struggle, the confusion and frustration of growing up with his family s secret Tizon makes you Feel all these emotions HIS emotions as you judge, reflect, debate with yourself, cringe, try to understand, but not really Then there s the LOVE A complicated love I don t remember the last time I read something that made me feel so conflicted love, family, responsibility, fear of deportation so must keep secret , the needs, the desires, the loyalty, the sense of being trapped, though you know you have a choice oh, but the possible risk from choosing that choice It is all very personal.In the end, and however people might interpret it, I felt happy, and cried tears of happiness for a sad life with a hopeful end, though I m not sure about justice and fairness, whether that was achieved.While this story is sure to incite a host of reactions, if you read it for the beautiful and compelling writing, already your life is enriched I guarantee you, Lola s story will gnaw at your heart.Btw Lola in Filipino means Grandma I am very familiar with the Filipino culture, and while some passages in the story might be unpalatable to others, my understanding of the culture and hence, tolerance for some Filipino practices comes from a perspective beyond right and wrong or black and white It s been a month, I guess, since the late Pulitzer prize winner Alex Tizon s article about Lola went viral on social media His article was posthumously published as the cover story of the June 2017 issue of The Atlantic.I showed interest in reading his article when it had a ground swell of opinions that he had been complicit with his parents crime in a sense that he did not do anything to help her out Rather, he did so right after his parents kicked the bucket Besides, his article bears h It s been a month, I guess, since the late Pulitzer prize winner Alex Tizon s article about Lola went viral on social media His article was posthumously published as the cover story of the June 2017 issue of The Atlantic.I showed interest in reading his article when it had a ground swell of opinions that he had been complicit with his parents crime in a sense that he did not do anything to help her out Rather, he did so right after his parents kicked the bucket Besides, his article bears hypocrisy inasmuch as he simultaneously did hide her existence from his friends Thus, his article suggests that his family, especially his parents, deprived Lola of her humanity.After reading the article I found out that the bashers could be right that Lola had a miserable life with Alex s family She served them for 56 years , taking care of him and his siblings without pay, having no good opportunity to return to the Philippines as what his parents had promised her The revealing and revolting fact is that she was not even allowed to pay respect to her parents death a heart rending situation whoever will experience doesn t want to miss in her his life So, who can t be furious about this unimaginably cruel truth However, the problem with the bashers is that they incriminate Alex in a crime he had been innocent of Bear in mind that he was too young to understand the situation he found bizarre Besides, he was too obedient to stand up to his parents who were both overweeningly ambitious His father was a busy business man hobnobbing with the elitists whereas his mother an inspiring doctor , striving to get a better streak He only mustered up enough courage to defend Lola when they both berated her for not feeding his younger sister Therefore, pin the blame on his parents who are now somewhere in heaven.There s been even a speculation that Alex wrote Lola s story for his own interest since he was an award winning journalist Those bashers must be deluded into the notion that he must have wanted to put himself on the literary pedestal Whatever it is that makes them delusional and irrational, in my book, what I see is that he must have wanted to imply that Lola could be the apotheosis of a caring yaya or kasambahay He must have wanted us to deeply understand the sacrifices our katulong , yaya , and kasambahay does for us Besides, I m pretty sure that Alex was aware of that what his parents treatment toward Lola was cruel and inhuman Thus, I m pretty sure that what he wanted us to do is to consider her as part of the family as to what he did to Lola contrary to the ideal value his parents unconsciously inculcated in him.Given that Lola had a miserable life with the Tizon family, I do believe that Lola came to the point that she accepted her fate, for she was borne upon the idea that she was a slave She learned to love the family she had served for many years She had almost stood as the biological parents to Alex and his siblings when his parents were up to their ears in work Also, I do believe that she was even considered part of the family based on the pictures Alex shared on the social media Lola had sweet and wide smiles showing how she did not look like a slave but a loving and understanding grandma to them Plus, remember, her world turned upside down when Alex s mother was in great distress Lola was the only one whom she could turn to for comfort It was like a scene in a movie when the antagonist turned into a lamb, moved by the oppressed s magnanimity In other words, bashers must be grossly literally exaggerated.Alex Tizon s memoir is deeply moving and well written It even incites bittersweet memories of childhood I was impressed by his scrupulous use of vivid descriptions Also, since it is a short memoir, he made sure that he was able to write it well balanced, bearing his award winning journalistic skills No wonder the bashers are irrationally taking it for granted However, I m almost familiar with how he circulated the story by blending the past and the present time My family and I have never had any nanny, helper, or maid since only rich and well to do family can afford to pay their service However, I grew out of the stereotype that the last resort a woman who is desperate for working herself through university or an old woman who lives with a poor family and is expected to be the bread winner of her family is to be employed as katulong kasambahay or yaya So, I never thought of that having this kind of job was a form of slavery I was just taught that this symbolizes your economic status in society In short, you re poor After reading Pulitzer prize winner, Alex Tizon s memoir on his family s big secret, a simplistic and laughable realization came to me that we must, indeed, take their case seriously The word slavery itself has a wider scope we must muse over in the context of social sciences `Download ⇸ My Family’s Slave ☞ lived with us foryears She raised me and my siblings without pay I was , a typical American kid, before I realized who she wasShe wasyears old when my grandfather gave her to my mother as a gift, and when my family moved to the United States, we brought her with us