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Witmer uses the four categories from his book on eldership to help men apply the same principles to their families For the most part, it works well I appreciated much of what he had to say especially his chapter toward the end on sexual purity That was the best chapter in the book and is one that men, especially elders and pastors need to read.All in all a helpful book. This book deals with important base issues in the family These things need to be said over and over again in different ways so they can sink in God has called parents to be the main Christian influence in the lives of their children, but we have become great at delegating the responsibility to others Timothy Z Witmer lays out a strong foundation for why that has to change and gives some basic insight in how to begin the process of being the main leaders in the spiritual formation of our chil This book deals with important base issues in the family These things need to be said over and over again in different ways so they can sink in God has called parents to be the main Christian influence in the lives of their children, but we have become great at delegating the responsibility to others Timothy Z Witmer lays out a strong foundation for why that has to change and gives some basic insight in how to begin the process of being the main leaders in the spiritual formation of our children.He strongly encourages men to know their family in and out by spending quality and quantity time You can t shepherd and lead without a deep knowledge that comes from life experience This may be one the greatest failures of the men in our generation and it s not just business men or dead beat dads it s also men who are in ministry and men in our churches We must prioritize our families so we can serve them like Christ served his Church It is important that men work on establishing a relationship with their kids that allows them to lovingly discipline them and speak the gospel into their lives Witmer echoes this sentiment, Discipline at every level iseffective when it is built on the foundation of a personal, loving relationship Good stuff Helpful thoughts and pointers from an experienced man of God. Timothy Witmer, professor of practical theology at Westminster Seminary, is best known for his bookThe Shepherd Leader Achieving Effective Shepherding In Your ChurchIts reviews were so good that I nabbed it and put it on my shelf to await that glorious future day when I will actually read books I buy.But when I saw his new book The Shepherd Leader at Home available for review, I decided to read it immediately because fathering and husbanding are pressing issues for me, a young dad I ass Timothy Witmer, professor of practical theology at Westminster Seminary, is best known for his bookThe Shepherd Leader Achieving Effective Shepherding In Your ChurchIts reviews were so good that I nabbed it and put it on my shelf to await that glorious future day when I will actually read books I buy.But when I saw his new book The Shepherd Leader at Home available for review, I decided to read it immediately because fathering and husbanding are pressing issues for me, a young dad I assumed that the book was written to tell pastors I m something of an outreach pastor, preaching weekly to a group of mostly non Christians how to handle the unique challenges ministry presents to a growing family.I was somewhat disappointed when I began to realize that the book was muchgeneral, written for every Christian husband father And, I admit, I was also disappointed when I began to feel I d heard everything before.But that s actually the value of the book In a straightforward style, in admirably short chapters, Witmer explains what the Bible has to say about a man s responsibility toward his wife and children Nearly every paragraph had something to tell me about my responsibility either directly from Scripture or from the wisdom of an experienced, godly man who has lived Scripture out in his home over the years.Witmer reminded me that knowing, leading, protecting, and providing for my family is my calling as their shepherd If some of the material in the marriage chapter, for example, sounds a bit hackneyed it isn t full of the scintillating insights of a Tim Keller book the counsel is nonetheless valid date your wife, thank her for taking care of you and the kids, tell her she s pretty, let her complete her sentences to you, don t check your iPad while you re talking to her.Likewise the fathering chapter eat dinner together every day, have a family night each week, spend one on one time with your kids There was less Bible in this chapter, though the advice seems self evidently good Likewise the family leadership chapter a leader is someone who leads followers toward a goal A Christian leader is one who helps his followers reach God s goals for them A Christian leader is also a servant.Likewise the chapter on the husband s leadership of his wife women are made in the image of God Jesus himself treated them with a respect alien to His culture and time the Pauline call for wives to submit is not a blanket permission for husbands to coerce their wives, nor is it a command for all women to submit to all men.I ll tick off the other chapters evenbriefly The chapter on leading one s children focused on the consistent example which is so necessary to avoid hypocrisy.The chapter on providing for one s family was basic but included some enriching personal stories and multiple key verses from Scripture.Th chapter on family devotions hadgood, simple advice One searching question if someone asked you if you have family devotions could you say yes with a good conscience The advice to men on sexual purity was simple, filled with Scripture, and therefore utterly sound.The chapter on protecting children didn t feel like a pendulum swing away from spanking and into grace nor did it feel legalistic It was just standard, middle of the conservative evangelical road Bible talk about kids And for once, I think I ve come across an acrostic I ll actually use, Witmer s ABCDEFG process for discipline I ll post it up on my blog soon.The only thing I think I disagreed with in the whole book was his description of marital love as something defined by commitment and independent of circumstances instead I d rather say that commitment is one of the defining features of my circumstances But he did not hang out on this point anywhere near as long as, for example, Tim Keller did in his marriage book.So my conclusion this seems to me to be the kind of book that you hand to a fairly new Christian dad Or a book to dip into when you need to be reminded about the basics of your calling as a husband and father I m glad I read it I pray for God s grace to live up to the biblical vision it sets [ EBOOK ] ♷ The Shepherd Leader at Home: Knowing, Leading, Protecting, and Providing for Your Family ☨ Husbands and dads play a crucial role in the health and survival of the family That s why leadership expert Tim Witmer has written this book to strengthen our efforts to lead well He applies a biblical framework to the role of leadership in the home, showing how effective shepherding involves knowing, leading, protecting, and providing for your family all the while communicating solid principles with a down to earth, relatable toneFind in this book the wise counsel and practical direction that is sure to make a difference in your family today Very practical and straightforward A good place to start a thorough reflection on God s calling to the leadership that men are called to display at home At the end of each chapter, there are questions that are useful either for small group discussion or to one s wife assessment I d encourage the reading. Biblical advice on providing for, protecting, and leading your wife and children, in their spiritual and physical lives Each chapter ends with self evaluation questions I didn t find the book as helpful as I expected, given the topics covered Witmer says that The purpose of this book, therefore, will be to help families by helping husbands and dads become loving shepherds of their families The strategy will be to apply the biblical shepherding categories of knowing, leading, providing, and p Biblical advice on providing for, protecting, and leading your wife and children, in their spiritual and physical lives Each chapter ends with self evaluation questions I didn t find the book as helpful as I expected, given the topics covered Witmer says that The purpose of this book, therefore, will be to help families by helping husbands and dads become loving shepherds of their families The strategy will be to apply the biblical shepherding categories of knowing, leading, providing, and protecting to leadership in the home.Witmer is professor of practical theology at Westminster Theological Seminary and senior minister of a PCA church.Part One The Shepherd Knows His FamilyAn Introduction to Knowing Your FamilyFor husband and wife to complement each other, they must know their own and each other s strengths and weaknesses.The Shepherd Knows His WifeTry to get away with wife for at least a night or two each year.Number one problem in marriage communication.Don t speak to criticize, only to build up Give grace Ephesians 4 29.Pay attention to your wife and specifically compliment and encourage her with no ulterior motive.Remember the unmerited favor you ve received from the Lord, and represent that to your wife Your ultimate objective is moving you both closer to God.Questions to assess your knowledge of your wife Do you know your wife s greatest worry Do you know her greatest concern for herself or for you or for the children Do you know what sin she struggles with the most What unmet aspirations does she harbor What regrets does she have Ask wife, How are you doing and How are we doing The Shepherd Knows His ChildrenIf there s anyone from whom your children should expect a word of encouragement, it should be you.Go out of your way to express appreciation and encouragement You must be your children s biggest cheerleader Don t default to saying no to kids default to yes unless there s a good reason to say no Part Two The Shepherd Leads His FamilyThe Shepherd Leads His Wife Marriage is a call to die to self , and a man who does not die for his wife does not come close to the love to which he is called Love your wife unconditionally, as Christ loves you unconditionally.Ask yourself, Is my wifelike Christ because she s married to me Am I aiding or hindering her sanctification Genesis 3 16b could be translated, Your desire shall be for your husband s position, but he will rule over you The Shepherd Leads His ChildrenExplain to children why you made a particular decision and which biblical principles applied.Tell children about your poor decisions and what you learned.If our talk doesn t match our walk, it will be counterproductive.When children are mature and wise enough to be the influencer rather than the influenced, encourage them to befriend those who need to hear the gospel Part Three The Shepherd Provides for His FamilyMaterial ProvisionContentment isn t complacency God has given us work as a means through which He provides for our material needs.Reflection questions Do you model childlike dependence on the Lord for your family Do you model thankfulness Are you establishing a culture of gratitude in your home Do you model contentment Is it clear that you re satisfied with what the Lord has provided Are you thankful to God for the job He s given you Spiritual ProvisionWhen child sins, point out sin, proper alternative, and benefits of proper alternative.Don t berate child when they sin Thankfully help onto right path.Part Four The Shepherd Protects His FamilyProtecting Your ChildrenYour unrealistic expectations provoke children Frequently affirm children.Hearten, don t dishearten Encourage, don t discourage Colossians 3 21.Appendix Resources for Family DevotionsBible stories God Is Great A Toddler s Bible Storybook by Carolyn Larsen The Big Picture Story Bible by David Helm Mighty Acts of God A Family Bible Story Book by Starr Meade God Is Great A Toddler s Bible Storybook by Starr Meade Long Story Short Ten Minute Devotions to Draw Your Family to God by Marty Machowski The Child s Story Bible by Catherine VosSinging Hide Em in Your Heart by Steve Green Hymns for a Modern Reformation by Paul Jones all ages Trinity Hymnal by Great Commission Publications all ages Catechism My First Book of Questions and Answers by Carine MacKenzie ages 4 10 Big Truths for Little Kids by Richie Hunt and Susan Hunt ages 4 8 Training Hearts, Teaching Minds Family Devotions Based on the Shorter Catechism by Starr Meade ages 7 Big Truths for Young Hearts Teaching and Learning the Greatness of God by Bruce A Ware ages 9 Witmer, having written a book for church leaders called The Shepherd Leader, takes the same paradigm and applies it to home leadership What sets his work apart from others on a husband father s leadership is the shepherding paradigm with the fourfold framework of knowing, leading, providing, and protecting This framework is helpful for understanding the totality of a man s role in the home I was reminded of a great many things I need to improve in my leadership of my own home For that, I am Witmer, having written a book for church leaders called The Shepherd Leader, takes the same paradigm and applies it to home leadership What sets his work apart from others on a husband father s leadership is the shepherding paradigm with the fourfold framework of knowing, leading, providing, and protecting This framework is helpful for understanding the totality of a man s role in the home I was reminded of a great many things I need to improve in my leadership of my own home For that, I am grateful My review is probably to be taken lightly since the book is so highly favored by many on Goodreads Perhaps I am just burnt out on Christian self help books I always have such high hopes for these types of books but I always walk away from them frustrated by the poor writing, lack of insight, and fluffy content My frustration might be better leveled against Crossway rather than the Christian self help genre Baker and Zondervan have published some home runs Crossway has been continuously a du My review is probably to be taken lightly since the book is so highly favored by many on Goodreads Perhaps I am just burnt out on Christian self help books I always have such high hopes for these types of books but I always walk away from them frustrated by the poor writing, lack of insight, and fluffy content My frustration might be better leveled against Crossway rather than the Christian self help genre Baker and Zondervan have published some home runs Crossway has been continuously a dud Mostly helpful for some good review questions at the end of chapters to make you think through some pretty obvious things Nothing very novel at all in this book Being a husband and father isn t terribly complicated, it s mostly just difficult An outstanding book on this topic in my opinion is one that puts things into the proper perspective as a means to motivate husbands and fathers This book did not excellent at doing this.