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Women, read this book Then read the book written for women by the same author I plan to If the man in your life is trying to be a better man for you show him your appreciation by becoming a better woman for him Great insight into who we are as women, real and honest Everyone has room for improvement. (((FREE PDF))) ↿ The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage ☔ For men, love is a high stakes gamble The right woman can be the best part of a man s life, and the wrong one can lead to personal and financial ruin In today s climate, no man should venture into romance without a reliable risk management strategy The Tactical Guide to Women delivers a solid plan for allowing the right women into your life, and keeping the wrong ones at a safe distance You ll discover how to Identify good women of low drama and high character Reduce your vulnerability to women who seem perfect for you but aren t Spot the early warning signs of emotional instability You ll also learn Critical techniques for seeing women clearly The most common mistakes that lead men into disastrous relationships How to reduce the odds of a good relationship going bad Impeccably researched and backed by the author s decade of clinical experience, The Tactical Guide to Women provides men with desperately needed, rarely discussed strategies for finding sanity, joy, and companionship This is not another book about getting laid This book is about not getting screwed An overview of the qualities to seek in a mate if one chooses to marry as well as an idea of the risks involved for those with assets if they choose the wrong mate MY GRADE B plus. Required reading for thoughtful men navigating the world of dating and relationships, especially in the USA where men will lose their shirt in divorce court Bezos 38 Billion I wish I picked up this book 10 years ago My friend in Miami suggested this book after it helped him figure out the red flags in his relationship, which ultimately, for long term benefit, resulted in a breakup.This is not a pickup book, but rather a risk management course on dating and long term relationships This boo Required reading for thoughtful men navigating the world of dating and relationships, especially in the USA where men will lose their shirt in divorce court Bezos 38 Billion I wish I picked up this book 10 years ago My friend in Miami suggested this book after it helped him figure out the red flags in his relationship, which ultimately, for long term benefit, resulted in a breakup.This is not a pickup book, but rather a risk management course on dating and long term relationships This book helps you understand yourself and be the best you to find and identify the most desirable her There are plenty of good women looking for good men This will help you 1 understand the values driven risk management approach to dating, 2 identify wonderful women of low drama and high character radiating the bright triad of Clarity, Maturity, and Stability, and 3 How to avoid completely f up your life In this day and age of divorce massively skewed towards women particularly in the USA , falling for some traps early in relationships can have an irreversible impact on your life if things go south the warnings, red flags, and pitfalls described in this guide will help minimize your chances of just that It s worth a time investment now.The book is an easy read with plenty of anecdotes and advice backed by psychological research It does a good portraying a bit of the biological psychological differences between men and women in the realms of emotions, problem solving, and attraction to supplement and how they lead to the relationship pitfalls above Overall this book is a minimal time investment to avoid traps costing you years of life, that otherwise, only years of relationship experience and years working as a bartender could prevent YES This was superb and I will definitely be reading this again Recommended by a friend, I think every hetero dude should read thisespecially if you find yourself falling for bad women, too 5 stars If you re a man, and have any interest in getting into a relationship of any kind, do yourself a favour and read this book.You won t regret it Required reading for men of all ages Goes far beyond marriage in its advice I will make sure to read it again when on a serious relationship. I added this book sometime ago to my virtual to read sometime ago maybe I heard the author on a podcast I was not expecting much, but this is a surprisingly good book The premise of the book is that poor relationship planning can be just as destructive as poor financial planning for an individual Doing either well leaves one much better off in so many ways Smith lists the many advantages for men to be involved in a long term marriage Whilst there are plenty of books about financial pla I added this book sometime ago to my virtual to read sometime ago maybe I heard the author on a podcast I was not expecting much, but this is a surprisingly good book The premise of the book is that poor relationship planning can be just as destructive as poor financial planning for an individual Doing either well leaves one much better off in so many ways Smith lists the many advantages for men to be involved in a long term marriage Whilst there are plenty of books about financial planning, Smith states there are not many aimed at men when it comes to choosing the right partner From what I have seen professionally and personally, I have to agree I have seen plenty of men whose potential has been destroyed by being in a bad or toxic relationship with a woman There is great risk in love Risk requires a management strategy and this is what Shawn T Smith is attempting to provide.Smith is a clinical psychologist and fills the book with anecdotes from his clinical practice It is surprisingly well written and argued using contemporary theory that is supported by research and well referenced He provides practical tools for assessing ones self and the suitability of another to be in a relationship with Smith makes clear this it is not a hook up or seduction guide, but aims to give the reader strategies to become one of those men who gains all the benefits of a long term relationship It is unashamedly aimed at men he wrote a companion book The Women s Guide to How Men Think, for women.Smith provides rational thinking strategies for choosing a partner My relationship with Kerri seems to be turning out OK so far I read this through the lens of would Kerri and I ended up together if I had been using this book Probably No we made house after 3 days of knowing each other, and probably the only reason Kerri didn t throw me out when we were in Brisbane, was I literately had nowhere to go a number of times According to Smith I made a number of tactical mistakes Maybe our relationship wasgood luck than good management I totally followed my emotions, rather than my rational mind Being locked into a room together in Brisbane and London forced us to confront our respective issues and eventually fight in a non destructive manner I cannot imagine us working if either of us had an easy escape strategy It was close, we both had plenty of reasons to leave one another on occasion I am benefiting from being in a good marriage Kerri made me a better person.I thought love is affective, not rational, so it could have been easy to reject the premise of the book I thought of the Daniel Kahneman strategy of making predictions about what sort of soldier a person would become in the Israeli Defence Force Bug bare was Smith referencing Kahneman s ideas and language many times, but never referencing him Kahneman suggested you collect the psychometric data first and close your eyes and imagine what your instinct of the outcome will be for the individual Using this book would be the equivalent of collecting the data , and then closing your eyes and following you heart.Smith suggests that there is a hierarchy of qualities in a mate He wants you to identify good women of low drama and high character reduce your vulnerability to women who seem perfect for you but aren t spot the early warning signs of emotional instability He outlines critical techniques for seeing women clearly the most common mistakes that lead men into disastrous relationships how to reduce the odds of a good relationship going bad.I think he does a great job and I would want to share this with my boys before they turn 18 He does not worry about stigmatising mental illness and addiction issues as red flags He makes a distinction between those seeking and actively engaging in treatment desirable and those who are not He begins with helping one to get to know oneself and what one is seeking from love with a partner Know Thyself He cautions about marrying too early or too late citing research that people who marry between age 30 32 are best able to form a long term relationship, with only 9% of people who marry for the first time at this age end in divorce He acknowledges the importance of sexual compatibility, and red flags when sex is being used as a behavioral modification tool, rather than an expression of love He encourages a slow approach to love and sex and differentiates between girlfriend, fianc e, and wife He warns about being a white knight and making any long term decision whilst within the honeymoon phase one year after becoming involved.This is the best book so far of the year and is right up with Judith Rich Harris from last year in its impact on me I am glad I did not use if for a basis for my relationship with Kerri, but professionally and personally I have seen the cost of toxic relationships on people they never recover I hope to find a way to share this work with my boys at the right time A great book in my opinion for its pragmatism in living a good life This is a great resource for people men especially, there s an equivalent book for women by the same author who contemplate the possibility of dating, marrying, or having anything to do with the opposite sex that involves anythingthan a non platonic interaction or a one night stand I cannot claim that it is the best or final resource, nor does the author, a clinical psychologist by profession, claim anything of the sort either.Married men might also benefit from this book, at least to a This is a great resource for people men especially, there s an equivalent book for women by the same author who contemplate the possibility of dating, marrying, or having anything to do with the opposite sex that involves anythingthan a non platonic interaction or a one night stand I cannot claim that it is the best or final resource, nor does the author, a clinical psychologist by profession, claim anything of the sort either.Married men might also benefit from this book, at least to assess if their choice was based on sound thinking including paying attention to red flags , and to see how they can help themselves and their partner to resolve any issues they might have to improve their relationship or leave the relationship early before they waste years of their lives with the wrong person.There are too many details to unpack in a short review, but some important traits to look for in a female partner include maturity, manifested for instance by the ability to internalize responsibility instead of externalizing it and blaming others and circumstances for everything, and stability, particularly of the mental kind, or at least demonstrating the willingness to deal with one s past fuck ups and issues, and their consequences on one s sanity, seeking therapy and help if necessary It goes without saying that men must manifest these two traits as well, or strive to achieve them if they don t already There are also many differences between men and women on a psychological level which can be explain by our evolutionary history , that can lead to misunderstandings and frustrations.The many horror stories out there showcasing of how awful relationships can turn out, especially when they end in divorce or a permanent unhappiness trap, are sufficient to deter any rational man, out of mere caution and risk assessment, from establishing a long term relationship or marriage contract, especially given the trend in many current legal systems to favor women in court, as well as the simple fact thatoften than not, men makemoney, resulting in asset transfer going mostly in one direction But the author, while acknowledging the need to heed those lessons, compares them to plane crashes that make the headlines, casting a shadow over all the good and successful relationships out there.The author s aim from this book is simply that men learn their lessons from their past mistakes when choosing a partner, as well as other people s mistakes, and most importantly from scientific research results regarding marriage and partnership, and take some measures to ensure that they and their partners lead happy lives together, and in the worse case, protect themselves against mental, physical and financial abuse There are things I really like about this book I think it is fantastic that it starts with looking at yourself before it ever goes into looking at what you would want to find in someone else There is plenty throughout the book about taking responsibility for your own part in how things are going and not simply thinking the other person is at fault There is a wonderful focus on being healthy and looking for a healthy partner.But I really don t agree with the chapter on divorce To give persp There are things I really like about this book I think it is fantastic that it starts with looking at yourself before it ever goes into looking at what you would want to find in someone else There is plenty throughout the book about taking responsibility for your own part in how things are going and not simply thinking the other person is at fault There is a wonderful focus on being healthy and looking for a healthy partner.But I really don t agree with the chapter on divorce To give perspective I work as a paralegal in a divorce attorney s office and I can tell you from personal experience that a lot of what is said there is cherry picked from the worst cases where women are being vindictive and he is completely ignoring the fact that there are men out there that are just as nasty and vindictive when it comes to divorce as those horror stories about women he is describing The author says clearly that he is using horror stories to scare his readers Is this frightening you I hope so, just a little It pays to be aware of the horror stories and cautionary tales This seems to completely derail from the other areas of the book where there seems to be a fareven keel of make sure you are in a good healthy place and then find a partner in a good healthy place, and then you can be partners in life There is a disproportionate attitude in that chapter that women are Always favored in court, the reality is they are not, court now a days favor getting as close to 50 50 as they can when it comes to custody Does that stop people from feeling like the other party was favored and they weren t No it doesn t No matter what the court orders, or how good of a win they got in court, there is almost always a feeling of It isn t fair Even a win in divorce court can feel like a loss, after all a marriage is over, property is divided, children now have a schedule between two householdswhat used to be there is lost, of course there is a feeling of loss coming out of divorce court I do wish the author hadn t so blatantly attempted to stoke so much fear in men about divorce in general The reality is if you have a toxic, mentally ill, or unbalanced partner, you are likely in for a nasty divorce It doesn t matter if you are a man with a toxic women in your life or a woman with a toxic man in your lifea toxic partner can cause a nightmare of a divorce.Would I recommend this book Yes, except for the section in chapter 9 titled A Word about Managing Risk In Marriage don t read that horror story fodder, all the author wants to do is scare you, he even admits to it